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  How Did Your JW Wife or Husband Leave You?

  by new boy in

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  inspiried by other post and threads....and the love to type.. after going from being a self rightious pioneer and bethelite, to someone who had major doubts.my years drifted by me.

  i had been a watchtower slave for over 50 years.

  one day at a time, i sold my soul.

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  P.S.S. So was it worth it....my answer is YES!.....Don't waste another day....don't waste....50 years like me....one day at a time...saying to yourself "It really isn't all that bad."
  
  
  
  
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  On Saturday... I decided to dump all my literature

  by tak in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  it felt good!

  i took that huge plastic bin that contained multiple copies of all the books given out by the society, all the old wt and awake's that i had, the year books, etc..... and threw into the city dump.

  my boyfriend thought i should maybe bring the literature back to them and i said "hell no.... so they can give it out to more innocent people.. he agreed.

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  After just a few months of leaving the Org, me and my husband decided to dump all of our WT literature...We aren't DF or DA (yet)We have been told, if we stay away they won't take further action.
  
  Well, my son still has a study at our home with an elder. The elder asked if he could get out his benefit book . My son told me he had left his in the car, so could he borrow mine.
  
  I didn't quite know what to tell my son or this elder who was sitting waiting in the living room for my son to come back with the book. So for about 10 minutes we were hunting round the house looking for a book that I knew wasn't there. In the end my son printed from the cd rom. He was put out though when I whispered to him that we had thrown them out. He asked me in a loud voice, if we were trying to make a point. I just told him to look after his things in the future. It is not my responsibility. My husband and I ended up in fits of laughter in the bedroom.
  
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  My neice died this morning

  by MsMcDucket in

  1. social
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  my neice who had cancer died at 3:00 a.m. my sister just called and told me.

  i'll put up the obituiaries when it's posted.

  no need for responses.

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  So sorry to hear this.
  
  xxx Strawberry Cake
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  My JW mother passed away

  by desbah in

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  so much has happen over the pass years since i posted on this forum.

  three years ago i posted my first topic about my mother, she passed away recently.

  it still hurts to lose a mother, someone who gave you birth and raised you the best she could.

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  strawberry cake

  So sorry to hear about your loss.
  
  xxx Strawberry Cake
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  Why do the majorityof JW's look so happy at the hall?

  by JH in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  each time i go, i see a bunch of happy people, young and old.

  some smile more than others, but just about everyone seems happy to be there.. maybe we left because we weren't that happy, rather than finding flaws in the religion.. maybe they look happy because they aren't allowed to look sad..

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  Maybe they look happy because they aren't allowed to look sad.
  
  
  
  
  
  
  In my congregation I thought the brothers and sisters looked terribly miserable,especially when they were singing. I would look around and wonder what was going wrong with JWs ..were was the joy ?
  
  xxx Strawberry Cake
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  Did anyone ever "Really" stumble you ?

  by Casper in

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  this is one of the things i felt could get really petty in the congregation i attended, sometimes over the top, in my opinion.. one time a group of us sisters went on a shopping trip.

  the driver was knocking herself out trying to find some "decent" music on the radio.

  finally gave up and put a john mellencamp tape in.

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  I suppose I was stumbled in regards to how I viewed the 'God appointed elders'
  
  I noticed that most in my congregation weren't that spiritual. For example they preached pioneering, but many didn't like the ministry. They preached about being careful about what we view, yet many watched films/programs that I told my sons they could nt. They preached not to be materialistic, yet the majority were.
  
  They were clumsy with the brothers and sisters and didn't act quickly(incredible procrastination) to protect vulnerable ones.
  
  Yet I have heard of elders who counsel others on silly minor issues..that shouldn't really stumble anyone. I was told by an elderess that I could stumble her student because I rode my bike on the pavement as I left her house ( I rode off the pavement onto the road outside her house)I know of another sister who was told not to powder her nose in the hall as it was stumbllng someone in the meeting.(this sister was suffering from hot flushes so her face was alway shining.This counsel really upset her especially as he did it in the hall.
  
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  Recent qutters, do you even have a social structure now?

  by oompa in

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  at least when i was in high school, i had lots of somewhat secret worldly friends.

  i fit in well for guy with short hair.

  my liberal elder/dad let me play on the tennis and soccer team....and go to the prom with my catholic girlfriend...talk about scandal.

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  I am starting to spread my wings.
  
  I've joined a few clubs eg..rambling( I've met some really nice people on walks) and scouts with my youngest son.(hoping my son will make friends and I will meet other mums.) Also the angling club.
  Started visiting more nature reserves and going on country walks more with my family.
  
  Also I started saying yes to invites from 'worldlings'.I have started giving more time to my own siblings and I speak to my parents more. Even the pets get more attention.
  
  Indeed my husband and I are really appreciating the non JW friends we have who we had falsely considered just acquaintances before.Who,truly are nicer than most of our JW 'friends'
  
  So we are actively trying to move on. At the moment the cloud of the WTS still hangs over us,(we talk constantly about them) but we are hoping that in the months to come, this will clear and we will truly be free of it.
  
  xxx Strawberry Cake
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  JW policy on Girl Guides and Scouts?

  by HB in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i have come to this forum on the recommendation of an ex jehovah's witness who has been very helpful.

  although he has given me some useful information, he suggested i post my question on here too to see what others have to say.

  being new, i am not sure if i have chosen the right topic heading but if not forgive me!.

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  Welcome to the board!
  
  Well recently me and my son decided to join the scouts. I have recently left the org though not disassociated. At the start of scouts meeting the kids stand in a circle and the flag is raised. Also there was a new scout making his pledge, and indeed he had to pledge to serve God and the Queen and country.
  
  My son is 11 and raised a JW asked me after if it was ok. I said it was now because we are no longer following JW rules, just our own consciences.(All that pledging and flag saluting is an absolute no no in JW land!) We discussed it and will proceed as we see fit.
  
  It would be virtually impossible for us to be part of the scout movement, if we were still JWs. Also I feel it would be unfair to the other children for us not to fully participate and support the group. The scouts do a lot of good for kids and for charity.
  
  So really, the two do not mix ..You're friend will have to stop being involved with the guides or the JW or be under a lot of pressure and stress if she tries to do both.
  
  xxx Strawberry Cake.
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  I have been Labeled

  by The Doc 58 in

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  it has finally happened after a year of not attending meetings and so forth.

  my cousin emailed me and said that he heard i was an apostate.

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  I said to my dad, who has never been a JW that the congregation will consider me an Apostate now that I have disagreed and left. My dad said " So what!"
  
  Of course he doesn't understand...but his simple reply made me feel better.
  
  xxx Strawberry Cake
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  YOUR DAILY JOURNAL

  by compound complex in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  dear friends,.

  much of what we do on a daily basis is routine and of no particular, earth-shaking importance.

  however, after reviewing letters of family going back to wwii, it is fascinating to read what dad was doing on board the aircraft carrier in the pacific on any old day, what mom was cooking on her ever-steaming range, how i was dealing with the roller coaster of emotion at bethel [mom saved all my letters], how nana wrote that she would not study with the witnesses [per my request] but 'here are some mittens i knitted for you when you canvass new york with your magazines.

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  strawberry cake

  Right now I'm sitting in the kitchen planning my weekend activities with my youngest 11 year old son.
  
  I have been trying real hard to keep him active as he has to form new friendships now. We have also decided to join the scouts....me as a parent helper. We love to hike and camp and this I believe will provide us with new friends. We have also joined the angling club and the ramblers.
  
  The memorials coming and yesterday, my middle son(still in org), who is 16 and difficult, asked me if I was going to the memorial. I said no. He asked if I would be doing it somewhere else, because the bible says we should do this. I told him that he wouldn't be taking it either, so whats the problem. He said we should observe it . I said, where does it say that? The conversation was unpleasant in its tone and my son was being argumentative. He is angry and confused. He was angry and confused when I was in...so no change.
  
  He doesnt listen and is very rude. I've noticed that being a JW doesnt mean you actually have to be spiritual..Because he decidedly is not.Just sticking to rules and routine.
  
  Anyway..I've been listening to a really good gospel singer called Coffey Anderson on GodTube and a disabled preacher called Nick Nujicic. I feel spiritual uplifted by them.
  
  I read my bible, mainly the sermon on the mount, as at the moment,I can't cope with anything too controversial.
  
  Apart from my loving husband and oldest son(my oldest son aged 20 is still in,he is very understanding and sweet about everything),I have a really good friend that I am close to, who is a very spiritual lady. We talk often.My large non JW family have phoned to cheer me up and to invite me over.. So all the girlfriends that are shunning me is no real loss...because they can't have been real friends. Indeed they are stuck in an artificial environment.
  
  So I am deprogramming. I know I have issues from 13 years of association. I am leaning on God.( I hardly can say Jehovah Now) Jesus is my friend...and life is a gift.
  
  xxx Srawberry Cake